Ditch the Diet

Ditch the Diet

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This is a portion of the transcript of from Episode #3 from my Podcast: Feed Your Soul with Kim.

It happens twice a year at the New Years and just prior to the summer. At New Years the focus is on losing weight and getting to your goal weight during the year, because they think you cannot be ok with your current size. The sooner the better. In the summer the advertisements focuses on having a bikini body, wearing short shorts, and tank tops. Along with these advertisements about swimsuits, there’s the underlying message that you need to reach a certain number on the scale. That you need to follow a certain diet in order to be that size in order to be “bikini ready.”

What they are telling you through their statements, pictures and imagery is:

  • Happy people are thin people.
  • Sad people are overweight people

This creates a diet mindset that we have all bought into.

How is this a diet mindset?

  1. Thoughts we need to be a certain size.
  2. Societal lack of acceptance of our bodies.
  3. This is a scale driven mindset where we are only satisfied with a certain number on the scale.

We have bought into this mindset, because we were indoctrinated into it. Diets failed you. You didn’t fail.

It’s the strategy of the 2 billion dollar weight loss industry, which includes books, programs, diet food, diet drugs and weight loss surgery. They do this to make money! If diets worked over the long term then we would not need to keep talking about it. The failure rate of diets is 80-90% long term. That is the failure rate! So, that means the success rate long term is 10-20%.

There are many reasons why diets don’t work.

Diets Focus on Deprivation

You are required (in order to be successful) to eat only certain foods on their list in whatever combinations they tell you and don’t eat any other food. There are forbidden foods that you just aren’t supposed to eat. We know that when we are told there are forbidden foods, we want them even more. You feel like you can’t control yourself.

It is the deprivation that sets us up to what we can’t have, which then sets us up for binging, guilt and more dieting.

Diets Make Us Focus on Food All the Time

When are on a diet we are told to look at food 24 hours a day. This makes us think about food all of the time. When you think about it that much, you want it more. What we really want to do is to put food in its proper place as nourishment and look at it as we’re hungry and intuitively determine what we really need.

Diets Lead Us to Think of Food in Terms of Good vs. Bad

I think there is no Good food and no Bad food. Food is food. There is food that gives us energy and food that takes energy away. There is food that makes our body feel good and there is food that doesn’t.

Truthfully, we tend to want what we think are “bad” food, especially when emotions come up. It is so common to hear people state they ate “bad’ food and now they need some kind of punishment (generally exercise or a diet). When we feel upset we generally tend to go towards foods many people would consider “bad”: sweet food, salty food, fatty food, etc. Good food, on the other hand is generally low in fat, low in sugar, and sounds boring and is diet-related.

In Order to “Ditch the Diet”, You Need a Plan

Here are three strategies to help end the dieting mindset.

  1. I suggest you ask yourself this question and journal, “What is dieting to me?” The answer is really individual. For me, dieting is constant hunger, deprivation, and foods are off limits. This is the type of deprivation that leads to rebellion, which leads to overeating at some point. Diets can be the surprise is healthy eating. Ask yourself, do I feel deprived? Do I feel restricted? Does this eating plan lead me to think constantly about food? This is that diet- binge- guilt cycle that comes when we engage in more and more dieting. Let go of the guilt about eating, your weight and the scale.
  2. Are you focused on your weight? Weighing yourself or multiple times a day really leads you into that diet mindset. I recommend you let go of the focus on your weight and let go of the scale. Connect back to your body and self-love.
  3. Eat intuitively connect with your body and mindfulness. Focus on physical hunger: this real hunger is the hunger we want to base our eating on.

I encourage you to look back on your history of dieting and notice the patterns. How does it feel to see your history of dieting and how diets have failed you? This doable is a start in the direction of peace with food.

Kim McLaughlin, MA is a Counselor, Speaker, and Inspirational Coach who specializes in working with people who suffer from binge eating and emotional eating. She is a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor. She is the author of the newly released book Feed Your Soul Nourish Your Life! A Six Step System to Peace with Food and the Amazon #1 Best Selling book Discovery Your Inspiration.

She has recently launched her podcast Feed Your Soul with Kim. You can find it on all podcast platforms.

Kim McLaughlin has been identified as writing one of the Top 50 Blogs about Emotional Eating by the Institute on Emotional Eating. Sign up for her free Special Report: Top Strategies to End Emotional Eating here or visit her website at www.FeedYourSoulUnlimited.com.

The Secrets to Understanding Emotional Eating

FacebooktwitterpinterestlinkedinmailBy handling your relationship with foodDo you ever find that you eat more than you planned? Do you eat until you feel stuffed? Do you try diet after diet only to ultimately gain weight back? This might begin to make you think that there is something wrong with you and that you are doomed to struggle with food and your weight forever.

I want to help you see that this is not a moral issue, and you are not lacking willpower or the ability to change the way you deal with food. What you could be missing is the key to changing your relationship with food. By handling your relationship with food, you can put food in its place as nourishment only.

The key can be recognizing how your emotions are playing a part in your overeating. The emotional component is not helped by dieting or limiting food. Actually the opposite happens: you could ultimately eat even more by trying to limit food when you are eating for emotional reasons.

Doesn’t everyone eat for emotional reasons? Yes, at some point everyone does. The question is – does it bother you? Eating to manage emotions is a challenge for many people because it can lead to weight issues that cause many other problems. Food can become a way to nurture yourself, when its actual purpose is to nourish your body. If we look to food to satisfy our feelings this may result in an endless cycle of diet/restrict-binge-guilt.

To help you determine if emotional eating is problem for you, ask yourself these questions. Do you:

1. Eat large amounts when you are not hungry?
2. Eat so much you feel uncomfortably full?
3. Eat in isolation to avoid feeling embarrassed?
4. Eat and feel guilty, upset, or depressed afterward?
5. Eat more rapidly than others?
6. Eat to make you feel better?

Does the way that you eat cause you problems? Emotional eating can keep you stuck because it has a component that actually makes you feel good. However, the positive feelings (relief, calm) are only temporary (one minute to many hours) and there is a turning point where it becomes negative and you might find yourself feeling angry and guilty that you overate (again).

The conclusion is emotional eating does not work. It does not satisfy your emotions, and can actually hurt you. The way to begin to deal with your emotions rather than overeating is to:

• Notice when you are eating for emotional reasons: for reasons other than hunger.
• Acknowledge it to yourself. You cannot change anything until you recognize it and acknowledge it.
• Give yourself praise that you are now “getting it” and willing to do something different.

As you begin to notice and acknowledge emotional eating you can then start figuring out what to do next. Some ideas are:

• Begin to identify the emotions that are leading you to eat: sad, mad, anxious, bored, or lonely.
• After you notice the emotions then you can address them. You can develop a “toolbox” which you can draw upon. I have many items in my toolbox to help me take care of my emotions such as; journaling, taking a walk, talking to a friend, meditating, or working out.
• Develop more mindfulness in relationship to your emotions by doing a physical check in. Try taking a deep breath and feel the connection to your body, then ask yourself how you are feeling, and what you really need. I find this mindfulness keeps me in touch with my feelings and a positive way to address them.

Be careful not to go down the path of self-loathing for overeating “for so long.” I promise you this negative thought process will only foster a return to overeating for being mad at yourself for it. Now is the time for self-compassion. Realize that you have done the best you can, and now is the time to change. Seek out help through books, professionals, coaches, 12 step groups, and friends; anything to begin changing this pattern. I’m confident that you can make it happen!

Kim McLaughlin, MA is a Counselor and Motivational Coach who specializes in working with people who suffer from binge eating and emotional eating. She is a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor. She is the author of the Amazon #1 Best Selling book Discover Your Inspiration.

Kim McLaughlin has been identified as writing one of the Top 50 Blogs about Emotional Eating by the Institute on Emotional Eating. Sign up for her free Special Report: Top Strategies to End Emotional Eating here.